Long Distance Friendships

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Soon after I moved to Portland in 2010, I met Lindsey while working a temp job downtown. We like to say that we fell in love over a secret plan to drown the office bonsai trees (it’s halfway true). When I moved back to Boston last summer, I didn’t have any doubt that Lindsey and I would continue to be as thick as thieves. We’re almost constantly in touch, but when we aren’t I always know that she’s there, she always knows that I’m here, and we’re never feel too terribly far apart.

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Since we don’t get to spend a lot of time together now that we’re on different coasts, I asked my friend Meghann Street if she could capture a perfect girls’ day with me and Lindsey when I was in Portland last month. We shopped, we had cupcakes, and we stopped to smell the flowers. And we laughed — a lot.

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Maybe it’s because she’s had to deal with the most demanding of jobs or because she has that steel-laden aristocratic Japanese blood (mixed with some ladylike Swedish) in her — whatever it is, Lindsey has taught me a lot about living a no-nonsense life. Most importantly:

  • There’s almost always something to laugh at when you’re crying.
  • Vegetables can always be disguised as something more fun.
  • If someone wants something from you and can’t tell you what it is, it’s probably not your problem.

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And now that you’ve seen all these lovely, ladylike photos Lindsey suggests that I add this: It’s important to have a friend with whom you have no filter. As in:

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She later learned that #nofilter actually means not using a photo filter on Instagram, but continues to prefer it her way. So do I.

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What have you learned from your best girlfriends?

P.S. Speaking of friends, I’m feeling especially fortunate this week to know such generous and thoughtful people within this community. Whether you’ve offered words of encouragement, support, advice, or a push in the right direction, thank you.Ā  I’m so grateful to have you in my life.


Lindsey’s Outfit: Shirt: Aritzia | Scarf: Monica Lee Studios | Jeans: Levis | Heels: | Cardigan: Target (past season) | Purse: Gap (past season)

My Outfit: Shirt: Aritzia | Jeans: Banana Republic | Heels: BP (past season) | Earrings: Kate Spade | Purse: Kate Spade (past season) | Scarf: Monica Lee Studios | Tattoos: Tattly

Photos by Meghann Street

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  1. This is so sweet and touching! You two are the cutest. I love Lindsey’s use of #nofilter and the lessons she’s taught you for a no non-sense life. I need to incorporate that use of #nofilter into my everyday life immediately. Thanks for sharing this inspirational snapshot into your friendship.

  2. I LOVE these photos. They really capture everything you’re trying to say, beautifully. I wish I had a bestie. I used to in my college days. My sisters kinda feel that role, but since I’m in a new place & far from them, I’m trying to make friends here. Which, to be honest, at this point in my life is a challenge. But I agree–girl friends are so essential. Again, LOVE, love your photos.

    • Oh, I agree that it’s harder to make close friends as we get older. But not impossible! I hope you make some great girlfriends out there in Texas, Janae. And in the meantime, us online girlfriends are always here for you. xo

  3. This is so incredibly sweet! And that store you’re shopping in looks awesome. My best friend and I have never lived close to each other, but somehow we’re still best friends since we were 16! Phone calls, texts (like every other minute), and the once-or-twice-if-we’re-lucky-per-year visits keep us together. I’m actually seeing her tomorrow!

  4. Oh this is so sweet! It makes me miss my BFF who now lives in Boulder, CO. The friendships that can always pick up where they left off are the best – they’re real! Happy weekend šŸ™‚

  5. Lindsey says:

    Ah lovely friendling, I am printing this out for my refrigerator <3

  6. How sweet!! I love that yalls friendship has stood the tests of time and distance. Beautiful photos, too. What a sweet way to capture your friendship! This makes me want to post about my BFFs šŸ™‚

  7. This post made me smile. There really is nothing better than having a girlfriend(s) that gets you, with no strings attached; Just a friend that wants to lift you up and vice versa. I just finished reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg and in the book Sandberg asks the reader to imagine a world where all women lifted each other up and supported each other and helped each other; Imagine what we could do. Thanks for sharing your friendship with us and the lovely photos, you two! xo

    • I’m reading Lean In too! It’s so true that people get caught up in competitiveness and cattiness when there’s just no point. I love the idea of living in a world where we all lift each other up. When one of us celebrates a success, it’s a success for all of us.

  8. What a sweet post! These photos really capture the spirit of your special day together. Love the shoes, ladies! šŸ˜€

  9. Yes, friendships…I’ve moved around a lot over the years with the result being friends in many different locations. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like if we all lived in the same city – that’d be wonderful.

    Lovely photos.

    • I have the same thought, Sandra! I’ve had the surreal experience of having friends from all over in one place for a little while and it was like a dream come true. xo

  10. What a lovely post! It is so nice and refreshing to see this side, even if you don’t live in the same city, there is a connection that will stay there as long as you both want. Thanks for sharing!

  11. You both look adorable. Love, Mom

  12. Aw, Lindsey! I’m glad you did a post dedicated to your best friendship. šŸ™‚

  13. Ohhh I love this! You two are so sweet together. And are those tattoos real? Either way they look fab!

  14. Oh, how I can relate to this post! My bestie of 12 years lives in California! We only see each other once a year right now but text usually every day. Hopefully as we get older and our demands with our children decrease, we can see more of each other. We both wish we lived next door to each other but that often leaves me wondering how much that would change the dynamics of our friendship! Love your tattoos!

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