Happy Valentine’s Day, cupids! We’re celebrating over here by spending as much time as possible outside.
Yesterday, as the sun was beginning to set, we jumped in the pool. An old woman sitting nearby asked if the water was cold, and we told her it was. She said, “Probably not as cold as where I’m from: Philadelphia. But it’s okay because I’m here and it’s my birthday!” We wished her a happy birthday and talked about living on the East Coast for awhile. She told us that she hopes next year Philly and Boston both make it to the World Series.
We dried off and James went to order drinks for us. I wished that I had asked him to get one for our new friend too, but he was long gone. I shrugged it off — it was getting windy and she might go inside soon anyway. And how were we to know what she would like? It was probably for the best, right? I went back to reading my magazine.
But then, when he returned a few minutes later he told me he’d ordered our drinks – and a slice of chocolate cake (with a candle) for our pool-mate from Philly.
This is why James is and always will be my Valentine.
Over the last month, Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project put together a 21 Day Relationship Challenge. It was all about strengthening your connections with loved ones rather than taking them for granted. Here are a few of the ideas that I liked most, which I think we should all practice every day — not just on Valentine’s Day.
- Appreciate the work others are doing and try not to unconsciously overclaim the work that you do.
- Don’t keep score. “When one loves, one does not calculate.” — St. Therese of Lisieux
- Control the cubicle in your pocket. (This is one I really have to work on!)
- Under-react to a problem.
- Give warm greetings and farewells.
- Kiss. A lot! And like you mean it.
Joanna Goddard once wrote that she and her husband kiss for at least 10 seconds before he leaves for work in the morning. As a big fan of kissing, I’m totally on board with this.
How do you want to inspire more romance into your everyday life?
P.S. I’m sharing some parts of my life that I haven’t yet talked about over on Not Merely Living today. Go there and meet the lovely Mere, who you’ll wish lived next door so you could be best friends.